Haven’t been on in a few days due to illness, But wanted some perspective on this as ive never been able to understand it!
My abuser was abused himself as a child by his own dad and always claimed that as his EXCUSE for abusing me?! Maybe im delusional but from my point of view, No.1 there is NO excuse for abusing an innocent child and No.2 as someone who has suffered horrific sexual abuse at the hands of a monster how on earth do you make another child suffer what you have suffered? In my eyes i want to protect every child possible, hence why i got him sent to jail, never mind the thought of another innocent child going through the same! I really dont understand it and it makes me sick that someone who has apparently been through it can then do it to another child and make excuses for it :o!!
I also want to highlight the injustice in Northern Ireland, My abuser was sentenced to a total of 27 years in jail for various counts of rape on a child, yet he was let out a free man after serving 3 and a half years !! I find that disgusting and also a complete let down for myself after going through the process of having him jailed and thinking justice would be served! I also think it sends a bad message to those yet to come forward- whats the point if they serve so little time? And it sends a bad message to pedophiles as they think they are clearly going to get away with it and if caught sure what is a little time in jail?!
I would really appreciate peoples views on this to clarify if im going insane or if im correct in thinking all this is wrong!!! Thank you for reading